Is Oral sex (bringing mouth to significant other's private by all its graphic forms) allowed in Islam?
The sections of this article are:
1- Is oral sex allowed in Islam?
2- Sex of all types (intercourse and oral) is not allowed while women menstruating.
A member on my message
board kept insisting on me writing an article about this topic for the sake of
Muslim brothers and sisters who are about to get married and are curious about whether or
not "oral sex" is allowed in Islam.
This is a fair question, and therefore, I will go ahead and answer it. Here is what Allah Almighty said in the Noble Quran:
"Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or HOW YE WILL; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear God. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe. (The Noble Quran, 2:223)"
"how ye will" means that the husband can do anything graphical, including oral sex, with his wife's body as long as it causes her no harm. In other words, he can't jerk his way in unto her and say it is his right. Allah Almighty said in the same Noble Verse: "and fear God." A husband must fear Allah Almighty when he sleeps with his wife. He must make sure that she enjoys him just like he enjoys her. He can make love using his penis, fingers or tongue; what ever makes both spouses happy. Allah Almighty left the door wide open for the two spouses when He said "how ye will".
However, anal sex is not allowed between the two spouses.
Sex of all types (intercourse and oral) is not allowed while women menstruating:
Sex of all types (intercourse and oral) is not allowed while the woman is menstruating:
"They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by God. For God loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean. (The Noble Quran, 2:222)"
It is obvious from the Noble Verse that intercourse is prohibited during the woman's period. Oral sex is also prohibited because the vagina would contain germs in it, and any physical contact with it, whether through the penis, tongue or finger, will not only bring pain to the woman, but also could and would hurt the man through the harmful bacteria. Allah Almighty in Noble Verse 2:222 clearly ordered men to stay away from any physical contact with the women's vaginas during the monthly period.
However, men can physically be close to their wives. A wife for instance can lay her head on her husband's arm in bed while she is in her menstruating period:
From: http://www.answering-christianity.com/women_menses.htm:
Narrated 'Aisha: "The Prophet used to recite the Quran with his head in my lap while I used to be in my periods (having menses). (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, ONENESS, UNIQUENESS OF ALLAH (TAWHEED), Volume 9, Book 93, Number 639)"
Maimuna (the wife of the Holy Prophet) reported: "The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) contacted and embraced his wives over the waist-wrapper when they were menstruating. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Menstruation (Kitab Al-Haid), Book 003, Number 0579)"
'A'isha reported: "When anyone amongst us (amongst the wives of the Holy Prophet) menstruated, the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) asked her to tie a waist-wrapper over her (body) and then embraced her. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Menstruation (Kitab Al-Haid), Book 003, Number 0577)"
The think the narrations are sufficient enough to prove my point.
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